10 Ways To Be A More Manly Man
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Well men, I've asked a variety of women about the ten best characteristics that makes a man more manly and a pattern started to emerge. There is really quite an array of characteristics that can define manliness but, as every man's "taste" in women is different, so are women's "tastes" in men.
- Confidence-Honestly, confidence is number one for a reason. Girls generally don't think men are manly if they don't have any confidence and even guys that are total dweebs, in many cases, can still attract gals by displaying this characteristic. Ways that guys can better gain and have confidence is by being happy about who you are and just being yourself (as cheesy as it sounds).
- Sense of Humor-Girls just downright tend to think funny guys are generally more masculine, a lot more masculine then us guys would think, mind you. Girls like to be entertained by cute, funny guys so by having some funny characteristics, girls may think you're masculine even if you've never hit the weight room in you're life.
- Showering/Smell-OK, you've gotta smell good for the ladies, or things just won't work out. If the first or second thing a girl notices about you is your stench, then all is lost. By showering everyday, wearing some deodorant, etc., you can not lose masculinity, unless that girl likes your bodily odor.
- Exercise-Girls generally think guys that work out, up to a point, are more masculine. Running and swimming usually doesn't cut it (sorry Michael Phelps), but this is a category that girls generally don't give to big of a hoot about. Some girls liked a ripped upper body and others don't so you're best bet really is to just be yourself and do occasional exercise. Confidence can make up for this area in leaps and bounds sometimes.
- Appearance-The facial expression and appearance of a guy is a big determining factor of whether a guy looks "masculine" or not. Honestly, this characteristic varies even more then the last, catering to each individual girl. Some common ways to look more manly don't have to include looks that are tough or display amazing strength, but smiling and being happy are great for many occasions.
- Respectful-This is one of the most important skills to learn and use to be more manly. A real man respects women and treats them as princesses, and yes, most women would like the opposite sex to view and treat them as such. Southern hospitality is one of the most manly characteristics a guy can display at times, even if its just opening a door for a girl. Seriously, respect is utterly important and shouldn't have to be built up but most guys need to learn it, sadly.
- Goal Oriented-A lot of women don't like to be with guys that aren't going anywhere. Having goals and sticking, moderately, to them makes a girl feel more secure and think more seriously about a guy. Again, some girls like to live on the edge and don't really care, but a lot of women do. Having goals generally can help a guy look more masculine.
- Listening Skills-Right up with respect, truly listening to women is a key to not only trivial things like looking masculine, but listening to women can save marriages, help gain lasting bonds and friendships, and can help you find the right girl for you. Listening to a woman shows her you care and will sacrifice some time to totally devote yourself to what she thinks and has to say. Every woman I know says that this characteristic is important.
- Hobbies-Once again, girls tend to like guys that are going somewhere in life and by "showing off" with hobbies, girls can get acquainted with and curious of guys. Some hobbies, obviously, are more attractive to some kind of women then others, but be yourself with what you do and the right girl will come along.
- Sensitivity-Yes, having some amount of sensitivity makes men appear masculine to most women. We're not talking about crying all the way through a movie, but showing empathy and maybe tears once in a while (shock!). Overdoing it isn't good, but this is really a characteristic that a person can only really be himself about.
In the end, being masculine is mostly about being yourself and being happy about it. Even if you think you look like a loser doing something, the girl you're after might think you're cute doing it, especially if done with confidence. Listen, listen, listen to what a girl has to say and respect her, you can't go wrong with that. Those are 10 ways to be a more manly man.
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Beautiful, Patrick, just beautiful!
Whoa!! You asked women to tell us what it is to be a manly man? I have to admit you have some good stuff in your blog, but, you start out by saying you consulted with women, which isn't such a "bad" thing, but they are women. If I stand in front of a mirror, I won't be looking at boobs and vagina--well, maybe the boobs!! but definitely not vagina. What happened to asking MEN what a real man is? You know, asking some old guy who has lived a man's life for a 100 or so years. Ask a WWI veteran if there any of them left, or a WWII vet or a Korean War or Vietnam War Vet what a real man is. You will be surprised by the answer. Why do we men keep falling into the trap and looking to women to find out who we are? We, as men, need to discover what it is to be a real man and then reflect that back to one another and especially to the younger men. And it probably is about all those things in your blog, but we need to discover those qualities for ourselves as men, not from women, and that's not to say that women don't have valuable feedback for us, because they do. But we need to become familiar with other men having valuable feedback for us and to begin to trust each other that together as men, we can discover what it is to be a real man other than killing each other!
It's a little late, and I apologize if this was a bit of a rant!!
Thanks for reading
Vern
vrbmft, thanks for a great point! I was focusing more on what a women's definition of manliness is and not what men consider it to be. I totally understand your point and I see that I need to talk to some men and see what their point of view is on the topic. Thanks again!
This is such great advice!!
Thank you, bayareagreatthing :D
Great Hub. Certainly needed a reminder on what actually matters to a woman
Now this is what I call a realistic Hub! Absolutely Amazing!
Amazingly, I agreed with 40% of this--6, 7, 8, and 10. I would add one more thing that makes men attractive to women, and that is devotion to their families. If that doesn't make a woman feel warm, feminine, and secure, I don't know what will!
This is a good article. I think that vrbmft has a good point but its a different subject.
Being manly is just that. Not how it appeals to individual men and women.
I'm female, so coming from that other side...
Screw muscles. If a guy cares enough about something to let himself cry, I'm hooked. Especially if it involves someone he loves. Seeing a man who's willing to let himself cry is (in my opinion) *extremely* sexy and manly. And while muscles are nice, macho is NOT. don't hide your feelings. Protecting us and treating us nicely is one thing; controlling us and treating us like property because your strength and ego; however, is not. At all. Really, it's terrible.
I think it'd be interesting to see what MEN think is manly...muscles or that inner masculinity.
You forgot the most important thing for a manly man is to SUPPORT HIS FAMILY.
Too many men, as well as women bought into the 2nd wave feminist idea that "If women go to "work" men will do more around the house, and the family will have more money to spend." BULL. What happened was Women went to work, men tried LESS and did no more around "the house" and now women still have full time jobs with the house and the kids, and many men, especially YOUNG men feel "Why shuold I have to try, when she will do EVERYTHING? I don't have to work like a dog like my dad, I can have my cake and sit on my butt and she'll do everything."
A REAL MAN SUPPORTS HIS FAMILY. And he doesn't complain about it. A REAL MAN doesn't expect a wife with smalll children to "help" with income, she has ENOUGH to do with the children and the house.
Men do NO MORE housework or childcare than then did in the 50s or 60s, yet women are doing MORE working "outside the home." Not only are we women suffering from stress and lack of ANY free time, but the children are being deprived of a full time parent and are being dumped in Day Care, when if their fathers were REAL MEN and their mothers were REAL WOMEN, Mama would be home, and Daddy would be brining in the money.
When women went "to work" the prices of things adjusted so that a TWO income family now has less buying power than a FATHER INCOME famlly had 30 years ago. The ONLY solution is for women to say NO to working outside the home, and for men to take up the work they USED TO DO.
And, of course, being able fix things, kill bugs, take out the garbage, paint, mow the lawn etc really help, NO REAL MAN hires people to do those things. Seeing as men have MORE spare time than they have in any time in history (because their women are "working" and most of the men are doing no more around the house) they can do these other things.
My husband is a REAL MAN, he supports his family, he loves his wife, he supports his children, mows the lawn, kills the bugs, fixes EVERYTHING and I stay home and do what I'd be doing ANYWAY (if I were "working" like taking care of our children, nursing our babies, preparing meals, taking time to take care of myself, shopping for our home) Only UNLIKE a "working mom" I actually have the TIME AND THE DRIVE to do these things PROPERLY.
I don't CARE if my husband "cries" (Please) or "shares his feelings" with me every 10 minutes, like I'd expect a WOMAN to do. I expect him to ACT like a Man. Be Manly and with the perks of Manliness comes the RESPONSIBILITIES, mainly WORKING HARD supporting a family and NOT whining about it. There is NOTHING less Manly than whining.
Sorry, the days of men following a woman's advice are becoming fewer and fewer. hahahahahahahahaahah
Nice, I feel like a manlier man already :)
I agree, specially when it comes to goal orientation. However, not sure what "showering" has to do with manliness. I think nothing. It has something to do with socialization in a completely different way. There are manly men who don't shower enough, and there are wimps who don't shower enough. And there are wimps who shower just right, but they are still wimps. A guy that doesn't know about body hygiene shouldn't be checking out sites about being manly. He should go to the store and buy some soap.
Watch rambo or rocky and you'll feel 100 times more manlier .;)
nice article btw.
Just a quick shoutout to P'Gell. She wrote in her comment:
"Be Manly and with the perks of Manliness comes the RESPONSIBILITIES, mainly WORKING HARD supporting a family and NOT whining about it. There is NOTHING less Manly than whining."
I SO agree with that! If you're a man, and you're whining, than you absolutely need to stop that. Not only will it drive women away from you, it will also rob you of your own manliness, your self-confidence and your feeling of self-worth, and it will WEAKEN YOUR CHARACTER.
A man see's a challenge and takes it own with all he's got - he doesn't whine and complain about it.
I know that's "hard", but if you just DECIDE that you're up for the challenge, that decision alone will make you stronger - whether you succeed in mastering the challenge or not.
to P'Gell
you're pretty much having a huge bitch about us men and saying that whining isnt masculine. but bitching as a woman isnt an attractive trait either. you're clearly a feminist person and your argument is so flawed in many ways. learn to debate.
You guys actually search for topics like this on the Internet...? Wow, that's manly...
I think to be funny is not required to be man , yes women enjoy more with funny and dont like to be with bored men , but that not a measure. I dont want to think if I will not be a joker of women then I am not man
@vrbmft and anyone else who thinks we should be defining manliness by what other men think... why? Are you trying to impress a guy? Are you trying to get a guy interested?
all that to nail a girl, huh? around the corner you can get it for cheapo
This is a very immature topic. Love is all that we need to give each other. Not boost our egos with big muscles. Accept how you are and everyone else. Whimps are perfect. Manly men are perfect. Everyone is. Grow up!
This was definitely written by a woman. What a woman wants is not the same as what she says she wants. The first five are ok, but the last five should be used in moderation.
Good stuff! So true! It's good to read this to refresh my ideas of what women want. More of the same please.
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@roastedpinebark: Nice compilation bro. Gr8 thought... Was reviewin other articles on other sites on the same topic. urs is simply the best and well acceptible.
Keep it up!!
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Grow some balls man and write an article for men by men on manliness. not some crap about what women think.. who cares what women think they want... they have no idea.. What the hell would a woman know about being a man.. I'm not picking on your article but stopping putting women up on a pedestal and being such a mommas boy. Your article is catering towards women... thats effeminate enough isn't it. God if a woman told you to wear perfume and high heels would you do it?
I agree that all the advice given is useful and what most women are looking for, however, to be truely manly in a woman's eyes, to get her motor going you need to do things she says she hates, the truth is that women (a lot of women) get turned on by primal acts, strong, defencive, violent things. So if you want to make her tingle, go play rugby, get sweaty and tell her you want her, think like a caveman to make her act all gooey. Most women will argue with this but hardly any women not get turned on by that sort of primal display.
Good stuff man. I think learning to be a man from a man is good and all, I mean, that's what fathers are (should be) for. but I want to please and take care of my woman (this sounds chauvinistic, I really don't mean it that way), thus, I want to know what she desires and expects of me.
@ Guy: that's not being chauvinistic, that's called being smart and having decency. Decency is absent in today's dating/relationship scene.
DON'T ask a woman what a real manly man is!
They will give you the same, politically correct answer every time. "Nice, loving, honest, funny"
^ Women claim to like these types of guys but in reality don't go for them.
i agree to micheal.
man is more manlier by
the way he walks
the way he talks
the way he behaves
his agression
his dominating attitude
no flowerly scents slik pants and stuff
man is known for strength he has to be strong
It depends of how you see or what a "Real Man" is for you. It always comes down to personal perspective.
As other said, asking women is a bit stupid. Is like asking men how "a real woman" is to us we will say "charismatic, independent, strong, intelligent..." when we want to say "boobs".
I think it comes out to what it is to you and what is your concept of how a real man should behave. Real man are often to me "daring, rational, emotionally tough, resourceful and fair in personal treat and treatment with others, holding everything to his own higher standards, always striving to improve in all the fields he decides to undertake in life..." I think that's all that counts.
Its manly but I like it too
Sure i think this article is more about "how to turn a girl on" rather than how to be a more manly man. But in the end if you're attracting girls then does it really matter?
Secondly, to all the guys that say women don't know what they want? That's so retarded> You all don't deserve to have girlfriends or wives if you don't think they have the capacity to decide for themselves what they want...
You would rather ask a Man how men want you to act and look like? Maybe you should be batting for the other side ?
This article is mostly drivel.
Masculinity implies strength of character, honor, righteousness, and wisdom. Femininity implies gentleness, empathy, and sensitivity. Both are essential in a human being. They are not opposites. Ideally, men and women should have characteristics of both masculinity and femininity.
What you have described is the noble-lie of masculinity. This noble-lie of masculinity turns on some women. And it rubs some men's egos the right way.
Being manly has nothing to do with muscles or exercise or treating any woman as royalty or his hobbies. These are superficial fake things that anybody can do.
What it means to be a manly man is to just be himself, while constantly seeking to improve himself per his own definition of what success means to him in life.
First, this requires belief in himself. Not that he is always right, but that he is capable of discerning what he wants to become. Next, he must work diligently towards becoming exactly who he wants to be. The self-awareness thus gained gives him the confidence which makes him attractive as a man. That confidence allows him to be his true self, without having to hide his emotions and his feelings from others. He has integrity, i.e. honesty within himself, and he is honest with the people in his life about his needs and his wants, about his mistakes and his shortcomings. He is not fake. He does not fake confidence or manipulate others. People like the true person he is.
That's a manly man!
This is way off, to be more of a man all you have to do is drink beer,fart,lift heavy weights,and watch spike tv.
I agree with vrbmft. I would like to know what men think about being men, and not really what women think about being men.
"This article is mostly drivel." - EM39
This is all the stuff that men do to get woman and then go back to who they really are. A real man is himself and stands his ground. Her is how to get hot woman, do your own thing, don't get wrapped up in what woman think, because lets face it woman, and people, are hot and cold so you can't please everyone, please yourself and people will follow.
Sorry bro, I agree with all the other 9 points, except point 6. I think that respect has to be earned and not given out freely simply because someone possesses a double-X chromosome. A truly manly men IMO treats EVERYBODY as equals, men and women alike. Respect should be based on the person, not the gender.
The premise of this article is that women define what makes a man, manly.
The woman pleasers I meet are the guys that leave their balls in a jar until a woman gives them further orders. Not very manly.
love this site! very cool.
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BereniceTeh90--- I am Strongly agree with ur comment......
.Nobody give u respect if u cant gate it by using ur appearance and activities. ......
Thanks for not adding "acting tough & defensive like you have something to prove," because that makes men look very insecure & immature.
Wow...what an article. I really don't know what to say except respect goes a long ways in anyone's eyes. I grew up with different kinds of men around,boys trying to be tuff,men being boys etc... But I guess the manliest man I ever new and strive to be like was my great grandpa. He was a full blood chahta ( Choctaw) man who hardly spoke. Although he never said anything and he knew everything from fixing the car to carpentry to working livestock to gardening. He knew it all. He was respectful to my great grandma and would take her bags anywhere she wanted. Lol even if she changed her mind. He also didn't have a 9-5. He never had to because he could provide for his family through training or harvesting food from the woods. Also he never spoke badly about anyone, didn't have to. Because he knew a bad person would eventually show their true colors. I always looked to him for that stability and silent guidance. I guess I never knew what it was until I started breaking horses... If you want to know where your boundaries and personal limits are as a man. This is where you find out. A horse will not show you respect unless it trust you. It will not trust until its fears are overcome with your help and a gentle hand. it is a process that is very delacute. Long gone are the days of taking away their sprit. Who would want a horse that can only take orders and not think or adapt to changes. Or even respect it's self... The same goes with people, women, dogs,mommies and men.
I also had the honer of taking care of my other grandpa during the end times of his life. He lived his Entire life working. However in the end he told me not to work so hard, enjoy life and respect those who deserve respect. Some how during the time I took care of him I to was given respect from other people and strangers. I guess when you take care of your own,people respect that. That is what I consider manly, wether I'm in a pair of loafers or dirty cowboy boots. Thanks
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This is so unmanly. I'd NEVER date this man.
the article dosen't feet with the titel, you want to mention how to attract women?
What the hell? Southern Hospitality is what makes a man a man? What about men from the Northern states?
Lol you guys talk smack on my post and never put forth your ideas. Yonatan if you can't pick up ladies on your own this article isn't going to help you. Gillian you probably never dated any men. Poo poo enough said. Annony, It isn't a north or south thing it has more to do with being a confident human being. Not arrogant but confident yet respectful and knowing who you really are. I don't always drink beer but when I do...
Patrick 2 years ago
Take notes, we need to do all of these things among hundreds of others so it is no longer bad to be a man. Join the fight, sign the petition, we need more support!